Most of you who read this blog are friends with me on facebook and you probably saw this post from Monday...
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I'll tell you what stemmed this... I am almost 39 weeks pregnant but mentally I am 3 weeks overdue. In the past couple weeks I have had more people say things like "Wow you're huge" or "Oh my gosh you've gotten so big!" or "You are so big!" than I've had say "hello" to me. No joke. These comments have come from my mother, siblings, siblings in law, friends, and complete strangers. When my BIL welcomed me with "Wow! You're huge!" I *politely* informed him that he should never say things like that to pregnant women and he needs to learn that before he has a wife who is pregnant. That was the nicer way of saying how I really felt which was "You better not say that to your wife when she's big and pregnant or she might want to chop off your little ding a ling." I kept that inside.
Most people wouldn't *DARE* say those things to a woman who isn't pregnant. So what gives people the right to say things like that now to a woman who is at her whits end and thanks to all those extra hormones, emotionally unstable? Most women have absolutely no control over how much weight they've gained or how big their tummy gets. It's all genetics. And it's pretty hard work making a baby.
Pregnancy is a beautiful miracle that women are blessed to be co-creators with God. So if you must say something, why don't you comment on how beautiful the mom looks or how healthy or something?
Like your momma taught you, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
PS As of today I can count on my fingers how many days are left until my due date!
3 comments:
I love you. And you are BEAUTIFUL! :) just ignore all those other silly people.
Elizabeth you're beautiful! Don't worry about those silly comments people make. Like you mentioned, they wouldn't say it to a non pregnant woman, what gives them the right to ask the hormonal, overly emotional pregnant woman? They just don't think sometimes. Thank goodness for amazing husbands who let you know you're beautiful and wouldn't DARE mention something like that EVER :) Not too much longer until you get to hold your baby boy in your arms!
I thought it was funny the things people would say...it's like they almost don't know what to say so they say something offensive. I didn't take offense because I knew they weren't trying to be offensive(and if they were I pretended they weren't).
It's funny what they say and you should not take personally what they say. Just laugh with them when they say you're big (especially those who haven't ever been around pregnant women) it's amazing to see that a flat tummy grows HUGE (yes it does!) and that is a compliment to our bodies that they can expand to 3x their regular measurement and then shrink back.
That's what I did when people said I looked fat or big or whatever, I did. Compared to my old self--it obviously was because I was pregnant--but some people have limited vocabularies in describing what they see (mostly men) and don't know how else to say"how incredible you have a baby inside of you that is growing and will be 7-9lbs. If I had a baby inside of me I would be big too"
hang in there and try to relax!
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